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All you littles that are scared what people will think
All you littles who have a boyfriend/girlfriend that don’t know about your little side
All you littles that are scared to ‘come out’ to your boyfriend/girlfriend
All you littles that live with your parents and feel like you can’t be your true self
You are just as important as all the other littles. You are strong. You are valid.
I’ve read a few posts recently from guys interested with the idea of beginning a DD/lg relationship, which is pretty cool, but they seem to focus heavily aspects of a sexual nature.
For all the would-be Daddies of the world, please note: beginning and MAINTAINING a DD/lg relationship is quite a bit more complicated than slapping on a collar and getting busy.
Being a Daddy in a DD/lg relationship is about being:
1. Emotionally supportive
2. Psychologically stable
3. Encouraging
4. Sensitive
5. Strong
6. Calm
You have to be able to:
1. Communicate effectively
2. Anticipate problems
3. Set goals
4. Follow through
The responsibilities of having a little are much the same as having a child and if you don’t think you would be ready to have a child, you may not be ready for a little.
I would never steer anyone away from entering into a DD/lg relationship because it can be a very rewarding pursuit. I’d only like to caution the Daddies that are focused primarily upon sexual pursuits.
Littles are sensitive people and having a distant, cold or detached Daddy who is only interested in sex would cause a lot of harm.
What is aftercare: Aftercare is a form of providing comfort for your significant other, usually one who takes on the role of a submissive. It causes them to feel safe, and secure. It is a way to reduce the chance of Subdrop. Aftercare is common in the BDSM scene due to the intensity of the scenes or actions that take place. BUT it is also extremely important in the CGL community as well.
Using Aftercare after a punishment has been done is really important. It shows that while you had to punish them, you still love them! You still care about them and their needs and how they are feeling.
It is also important to know that aftercare is needed by dominants as well, this is not something that is for subs only. Be aware of how your partner is doing before and after a scene or relationship experience. It’s important to be aware of these things to avoid a potential relationship damaging experience.
If you ignore subdrop or the needs of your partner, it is possible for them to lose interest. They will become distant. They lose their trust in you. They will begin to find less enjoyment in entering a scene or aspects of the relationship dynamic with you.
Examples of Aftercare:
Snuggling
Drawing them a bubble bath
Cuddles and a movie
Gentle caressing
Just holding your partner
Giving them a bath
A massage
Using soothing lotions on bruises/marks
A short nap with your partner
Petting/soothing with words. (i.e. good girl/good boy/ you did so well)
Giving a treat (warm milk/tea/some goldfish, etc)
Brushing their hair
Watching a movie of your partner’s choice
Reading a book to them
Kissing their marks/bruises/wounds
Letting them know they’re safe
Wrapping them in their favorite blanket with their favorite stuffed animal
Ensuring their comfort item is within reach
Treating any potential injuries/wounds
Having a deep conversation/heart to heart
Reading them a story
Preparing a meal for you and them, ensuring they eat and hydrate
Answering questions they ask -remaining calm during it.
Ask how they are feeling and checking often
Validate them
Be emotionally available and understanding
For more information about aftercare check out these following links:
✨ ONLINE AFTERCARE ✨
Because YES this is a MUST after a scene is played out even when it is online!
– our world is becoming one where you primarily meet ppl online, & so relationships form here, they were to be taken just as seriously as your “RL” relationships
– Aftercare is still a part of your life even when you have an online BDSM relationship.
Due to the nature of these relationships and the severity of them, as they are JUST as serious as in person ones, you still should be a legal consenting adult as there are still physical/emotional ramifications of engaging in BDSM even when it is in an online medium.
– Whatever is done, or scene performed, you must still aftercare. It is still possible to drop for the Dom or sub after these sessions and so if you do not have the time to invest in the Aftercare You should NOT BE DOING THE SCENE.
– Aftercare ideas for online can be instructing and voicing self massages, taking a shower, skyping while watching the same show or movie, talking on the phone about happy things, singing to each other, making yourselves laugh, enjoying a snack, the list goes on and some normal aftercare suggestions can definiately be tailored to work for your Online BDSM relationship.-
-✨ remember that if someone is not willing to put in the time after a scene (Dom or sub) that is a huge red flag. You deserve care, you NEED it, and it being done online does not make it any less serious.
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Pls don’t delete my caption. Its v important to me that people understand that Aftercare is an always.
“Don’t feel guilty. I’m not being forced to be here. I choose to be. Because I want to be.”
“You’re not being too needy.”
“Tell me everything. I really want to know.”
“I love you. You struggling isn’t going to change that.”
“It’s ok to cry if you need to. I’m not afraid of tears.”
“I love you, you know. Even when you’re worried. Maybe even extra lots then, cuz I know you need it.”
“Do you know how proud I am right now, seeing you stand up to something so scary and hard? I’m so, so, SO proud!”
“Do you want to talk more? I want to hear, so don’t worry about talking too much of being too scared.”
“I’m not going anywhere. I’m right here.”
“Come here, little one. I need to hold you right now. And you need it too.”
“I love you, and I love your courage and strength.”
“I promise I’m not going anywhere. Tell me everything.”
And about a billion similar things. SUPPORT YOUR LITTLES, PEOPLE! Especially when hard times strike. And remember too, littles…your caregivers need support too!
little bratty princess 